Finding the Right Words for Grieving Hearts

Listening is one of the most powerful ways to support someone who is grieving
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Mandy Beart

Grief is a deeply personal and often overwhelming experience that touches the lives of countless individuals. If you’ve ever found yourself in the presence of someone who is grieving, you may have felt a sense of helplessness, unsure of what to say or how to offer support. In moments like these, it’s important to remember that sometimes, the most meaningful gestures are the simplest ones.

First and foremost, acknowledge the person’s loss. A simple “I’m so sorry for your loss” can go a long way in expressing your sympathy and letting them know that you’re there for them. Avoiding the topic or pretending that nothing has happened can feel dismissive and invalidating of their pain.

While it’s natural to want to offer words of comfort, it’s important to tread carefully. Platitudes like “They’re in a better place now” or “Everything happens for a reason” can come across as trite and dismissive of the person’s grief. Instead, offer words of genuine empathy and support. Phrases like “I can’t imagine what you’re going through, but I’m here for you” or “I’m here to listen if you want to talk” acknowledge their feelings and let them know that their pain is valid.

Listening is one of the most powerful ways to support someone who is grieving. Allow them to express their emotions without judgement or interruption. Sometimes, all they need is a compassionate ear to listen to their thoughts and feelings. Resist the urge to offer advice or try to “fix” their grief. Instead, validate their feelings and offer your unconditional support.

In addition to offering emotional support, practical gestures can also be greatly appreciated. Offer to help with everyday tasks such as cooking, cleaning, or running errands. Grieving individuals may find it difficult to make decisions or focus on basic responsibilities. Your assistance can provide much-needed relief during this challenging time.

Everyone grieves differently, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to experience the grieving process. Some individuals may find comfort in sharing memories and stories about their loved one, while others may prefer to grieve in private. Respect their boundaries and follow their lead in terms of how they choose to express their grief.

Supporting someone who is grieving is an ongoing process. Grief doesn’t have an expiry date, and the pain of loss can resurface unexpectedly, even years later. Continue to check in on your loved one and offer your support and presence in the days, weeks, and months to come.

Although talking to someone who is grieving can feel intimidating, your presence and support can make a world of difference for them. Offer words of genuine empathy, listen without judgement, and provide practical assistance when needed. Your kindness and compassion can help to ease the burden of grief and remind your loved one that they are not alone in their pain.

As a professional Life Coach, I specialise in both coaching and grief & bereavement counselling. I am here to support you and to help you adapt to a new way of living. To rediscover your inner strength, feel free to connect with me at +61 434 511 381.

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